Don’t Wait: Make the First Move!

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Spiritual friendship is not just “nice to have” in the Christian life—it’s essential.

“Two are better than one… If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9, 10

Have you ever hesitated to reach out to someone, afraid of being rejected or misunderstood? Maybe you saw someone at church who looked a little lonely, or a mom at the park who seemed like she might want a chat. You thought, “I should go say something”, but then quickly talked yourself out of it…. Let’s be honest—friendship on its own can feel risky, but being the one to make the effort ups the risk for sure. 

Let’s start with the obvious: initiating friendship feels vulnerable. You don’t know how you’ll be received. You risk feeling awkward, ignored, or even rejected. In our social-media-saturated world, it’s easy to stay in our own bubble, where we scroll, like, and comment without ever truly engaging.

From the beginning, God said, “It is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). While that verse speaks to marriage, the principle really is broader. We are created for connection. Scripture is full of examples of deep, godly friendships: David and Jonathan, Ruth and Naomi, Paul and Timothy, Jesus and His disciples.

Still, we hesitate.

We tell ourselves lies like:

  • She probably has enough friends already.
  • What if she thinks I’m too much?
  • I don’t want to come across as needy.
  • I’ve been burned before—I’m not doing that again.

All of those fears are valid—but fear doesn’t get to have the final say. When it comes to godly friendship, the return on investment is greater than we can imagine. God’s best for you happens in community; it’s the enemy of your soul who wants you in isolation.

Jesus Himself modeled what it means to initiate relationship – we talked about this on the blog a few weeks ago.  Check it out here if you missed it!

Jesus invited Himself over. Jesus made the first move. If the Son of God was willing to reach across social barriers, awkward situations, and the opinions of others to extend friendship, shouldn’t we be willing to do the same? The truth is, anything worthwhile involves some level of risk, and that includes friendship.

Friendship doesn’t happen by accident. It’s not something we stumble into—it’s something we choose to build. Like any investment, it requires intentionality, time, and sacrifice.

I loved morning car rides with my children on the way to school when they were small many years ago. There were a couple of verses that were on the usual rotation, and one that was repeated often was Proverbs 18:24. “A man who has friends must himself be friendly.” That’s not just a cute quote—it’s a reminder that friendships grow when we’re willing to plant seeds.  

Sometimes those seeds look like:

  • Sending the first text.
  • Asking someone to grab coffee.
  • Sitting next to someone new at church.
  • Starting a conversation, even when you feel awkward.

Prepare yourself: not every seed grows into a deep friendship. Some fade. Some were only meant for a season. However, some grow roots so deep that they strengthen your faith, bring you joy, and sharpen you into the person God is calling you to be. Those kinds of roots bring forth good fruit, friends who will:

  • Speak truth when we’re tempted to believe lies
  • Pray for us when we don’t have the words
  • Celebrate our victories and mourn our losses
  • Keep us accountable and point us back to Christ
  • Lift us up when we feel down

That kind of friendship doesn’t just happen. It starts with someone being brave enough to go first.

Here’s the thing: you’re not the only one longing for connection. That woman you keep thinking about inviting to coffee? She might be praying for someone like you. The young mom sitting by herself at small group? She may be hoping someone notices her.

Someone is waiting for you to be bold. Not perfect. Just willing.

This week, take a step toward friendship. Plant the seeds. Show yourself friendly.

  • Send the text. 
  • Invite the person. 
  • Sit next to someone new. 
  • Smile first. 
  • Speak up. 
  • Be the one who reaches out.

Are you nervous or unsure? That’s okay, don’t let those feelings stop you. Friendship built on faith, truth, and love is worth every bit of risk and effort. Remember that Jesus made the first move toward us. He came close. He extended His hand. Let’s follow His lead.

Godly friendship is a treasure – but many times you have to make an effort to enjoy it’s benefits!

p.s. I’m continuing this discussion on the podcast this week! New episode will drop on Thursday. Subscribe on Youtube, Spotify or Apple Podcasts this week so we can connect again! Here’s the link tree so we can connect!

Watch Out for the Baobabs!

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Paul encourages Titus (and by extension, us) in Titus 1:15: “To the pure all things are pure, but to those who are defiled and unbelieving nothing is pure; but even their mind and conscience are defiled”. 

“To the pure all things are pure”, I love that.  I think it means that I can find Jesus and joy in everything,  Purity in heart could be the lens through which we view everything. Using that perspective, I’ll share a little something: 

Antoine De Saint Expury wrote a book in 1943 entitled “The Little Prince”. It’s one of my favorites (and no, its not a “Christian” title – this is a to-the-pure-all-things-are-pure-situation, remember?).  Every great once in a while, I’ll take it out and read it all in one sitting, all by myself, preferably on the favorite spot on my back porch, lake view and solitude. I love the language, I love the story, I love the illustrations. I don’t highlight it and underline, but maybe I should – I love the little life lessons! Here’s one that stands out today:

“It’s a question of discipline,” the little prince told me later on. “When you’ve finished your own washing and dressing in the morning, then it is time to attend to the washing and dressing of your planet, just so, with the greatest care.  You must see to it that you pull up regularly all the baobabs, at the very first moment when they can be distinguished from the rose-bushes which they resemble so closely in their earliest youth.  It is very tedious work,” the little prince added, “but very important….. Sometimes, there is no harm in putting off a piece of work until another day. But when it is a matter of baobabs, that always means a catastrophe.”

Let that sink in for a minute: “It is very tedious work, but very important.”

Solomon 2:15 communicates something similar in a different way: “Catch us the foxes, the little foxes that spoil the vines, For our vines have tender grapes.”

This isn’t a “one and done” situation. Solomon’s little foxes, like the little prince’s baobabs, had to be tended to daily. The “little foxes” were things that seemed small, until they were allowed to get out of control. The “little foxes” are things in our own lives that we might ignore or gloss over or get to another day until we don’t get to them at all.

“Sometimes, there is no harm in putting off a piece of work until another day. But when it is a matter of baobabs, that always means a catastrophe.”

Sometimes a delay isn’t harmful. Y’all know I practice Sabbath (you should too! I wrote about it here), I practice a “rule of life” (hey, let’s talk about that one soon!), and there are times in life when we need a rest. Life happens sometimes, things get delayed sometimes, but these interruptions or surprises should be the exception, not the norm.

What are “little foxes” for you? What are things in your life that you should tend to daily? My suggestion is that you include spiritual foundational disciplines: Prayer, Giving and Service, Bible Study, Church Attendance, Worship, Sabbath, Spiritual Friendships, Love, Operating in the Fruit of the Spirit, Fasting…. Your vines have “tender grapes”, the little prince’s planet was small, ignoring the foxes and the baobabs always means a catastrophe. Maybe not at first – it might take you a little time to realize that you have lost your “first love”, but that’s how the enemy of your soul operates. Slowly, subtly, a drift so gradual that you fail to notice that you are slipping away.

It’s a question of discipline, tending to these daily practices. The beautiful thing is: when you cultivate these habits, your love for the Lord will grow. You will be drawn closer to His heart. These daily disciplines will anchor your love for God, and guess what? The “little foxes” and the “baobabs” won’t stand a chance!

Even if it seems tedious at times, that’s a treasure!

Philippians 2:5-8 :)

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“Let Christ himself be your example as to what your attitude should be. For He, who had always been God by nature, did not cling to His prerogatives as God’s equal, but stripped Himself of all privilege by consenting to be a slave by nature and being born as mortal man. And, having become man, He humbled himself by living a life of utter obedience, even to the extent of dying, and the death He died was the death of a common criminal” (Philippians 2:5-8 Phillips)

(I love the Phillips translation! Try reading the Bible in a translation that is new to you – it will give it a fresh take!)

“Let Christ himself be your example as to what your attitude should be”

Jesus’ motivation, His very existence, His entire purpose for coming to earth was to redeem and rescue.  He said Himself, “For the Son of Man himself has not come to be served but to serve, and to give his life to set many others free” (Mark 10:45 Phillips).  His constant motivation was love. What if this was the litmus test for our actions as well?

Check your attitude this morning: Let Christ Himself be your example.

  1. Is love your continual motivation?
  2. Are you more interested in serving others than in serving your own purposes?

I have to ask myself these questions daily.  I find myself in situations daily where I have to make a decision separate from the inclination of my flesh.  I find myself daily evaluating what is best for me vs what is best for the people within my sphere of influence.

Sometimes the required action is mutually beneficial – sometimes the required action does not seem beneficial to me, so what do I do?  I trust the Lord to love me as I follow His example in loving others. I trust Him to take care of me as I take care of others. I leave behind the scarcity mentality.

It’s not exactly 100%.  As much as I want everything to be black and white, right and wrong (I find comfort in the boundaries), there’s gray.  You pray and do the best you can. You ask the Lord to test your motives and reveal your heart. You ask Him to search you and know you.  Even Jesus took care of HImself – He went to the garden alone. He took the disciples away for a rest. He slept in the boat before the storm.  He fasted and was separate, always doing what the Father asked Him to do. Take this as an example, not an excuse.

If I choose SELF over OTHERS, then I am not trusting the Lord. If I choose SELF over OTHERS, then I am not loving as Jesus loved. Loving like Jesus loves means that I come in second.

“For He, who had always been God by nature, did not cling to His prerogatives as God’s equal, but stripped himself of all privilege by consenting to be a slave by nature and being born as mortal man”

It’s significant to notice that Jesus never claimed the rights due Him as the Son of God.  Reading His life years later, we might not complain had Jesus moved into His comfortable house and taught at the local church, teaching people how to minister and sending them out, but never leaving His own town. We might think, “Well, that’s what the boss does.  The general himself doesn’t go out into the front lines…” and then in our twisted way of thinking, we would have concluded that leadership was a place to arrive at, and that the “harder work” will come to an end at some point.

I did think when I was younger “well, when I have more money”, “well, when I am finished with school”, “well, when we have a larger church”, “well, when fill-in-the-blank-here”, THEN I will have arrived, THEN I won’t have to work so hard, THEN, life will be easier.

You see the downward spiral there?  Jesus knew, God knew, that one day in our society centered on SELF, we would misinterpret Jesus and think there was a place to arrive at, some place where it would be okay that our own needs came before the needs of others, to a place where it was okay for us to be comfortable and supervise.  That would not do – so Jesus made sure that He took on all the wonders and all the hardships of being human, and didn’t lay claim to any “rights” He may have enjoyed as the Son of God.

It’s important to note the why: why did Jesus lay aside His prerogatives as God’s equal?  I think two things:

He knew Who He was, and He knew the behavior of others would not change His identity.  

I also think that insisting on His rights, driving home the point that He “was God’s equal and therefore” wasn’t the main thing.  The main thing was to reconcile people back to God. The main thing was to demonstrate the love and the heart of the Father, the main thing was to serve and be served, the main thing was to communicate

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me,

Because He has anointed Me

To preach the gospel to the poor;

He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,

To proclaim liberty to the captives

And recovery of sight to the blind,

To set at liberty those who are oppressed;

To proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord.” (Luke 4:18-19 NKJV)

In order for people to receive salvation and experience the benefits of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross, they were going to have to also understand that He was God’s Son, sent as a substitute for their sins.  But that wasn’t the gateway to Jesus’ message: “God loves you, God wants you free, God wants you healed, God wants you whole – and if I can effectively reconcile you back to God, you’ll know that I am truly sent from Him”.  His motivation was love for these lost people, these sheep without a shepherd.

My first career was teaching music in elementary grades. My point in teaching music was not to make sure that the kiddo’s know that I am their teacher – I never taught a lesson on who I am. However, as I stay on message, they figure it out and they begin to trust me. One day they’ll dance at their wedding or sing a lullaby to their child, and I’ll have a small part in that.  And that’s literally nothing, so insignificant in comparison to Jesus’ purpose, it’s embarrassing to even mention it. For Jesus, the most important thing was communicating His purpose, not promoting His position.

If we are going to love people like Jesus loved people, we’re going to have to figure out what the most important thing is and stay on that – and the most important thing is not us.

Maybe loving like Jesus loves requires laying aside my “rights” or promoting His purpose over my position for the benefit of others.

“And, having become man, He humbled himself by living a life of utter obedience”

Look at this, it’s not going to be popular:

Humble: 1. having or showing a modest or low estimate of one’s own importance.

  1. of low social, administrative, or political rank

So being humble is having a modest view of your own importance (Jesus was the very definition! Who is more important than He is? Who had a more modest view of Himself than He did?) OR actually being of low rank.  

I guess it’s the same as the last point – but if you have to move out of the way in order for someone to see God, move out of the way.  If you have to work hard for the greater good and at the end of the day no one noticed or even knew, you’ll have the satisfaction of knowing that God sees you – and He is the reason you are working anyway.  

And being seen by the Lord?  Wow, what an amazing treasure that will be! ❤ 

little treasures :)

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Among all the other changes and life events, we moved about three years ago.  Not to a new town, just a new house.  With all the “babies” grown and moved out, I guess it was time to downsize. In my dining room, I have these floating shelves above my sideboard, super cute.  I love to decorate them with my favorite things.  After having so much fun decorating them for Christmas, I decided I would do a subtle little “nod” to Valentines – I put out my paternal grandmother’s formal china with its little pink rosebuds, got a few pink things from Hobby Lobby and Target (and even had a Valentines dinner for some friends with pink chargers!).  Fun! (oh how Mama Annie would love it too, seeing her dishes so loved!)

   

Since Christmas and Valentines Day were so much fun, I decided a little “nod” to St Patrick’s Day would be fun too, so off to my favorite shops I went!  Turns out, St Patrick’s day is not subtle…. everything I saw was pretty “loud”, sparkly, not the little “hint” of shamrocks I had hoped for, but then I remembered: my little Irish girl! Can we take a little rabbit trail together? 


My maternal grandmother collected music boxes.  Lots of them, shelves and shelves, boxes and boxes.  I loved playing with them when I was small. Some were very large, some were very expensive, but all of them were out – she didn’t mind when we played them. This little Irish girl plays “When Irish Eyes Are Smiling”, but have your earplugs handy when I start her up – she’s so out of tune, it will give you a headache when she plays. Her dress is cracked, someone glued her back together long before I was around. Her paint is worn off in places.   I have very specific memories of this one when I was small – every time I got down the music boxes, I made sure she was one of them. I remember feeling sorry for her, thinking that no one would play with her because she was broken and didn’t play a pretty tune.  I always thought no one would want her, so I made sure to give her some attention when I visited.  Isn’t it funny the things were think when we are young?

When my grandmother passed away, my mother, aunts and uncle asked the grandchildren if there was anything in the house we would like.  I don’t think anyone objected when I requested the little Irish girl, and I was so pleased to bring her to my house. Today, she was the perfect “nod” to St Patrick’s Day for my floating shelf.  I decided to display my maternal grandmother’s china along with her music box – it might not be “St Patrick’s Day official”, but it makes me smile.  It makes me remember.   (oh how Super Nana would have loved this too!)

You know, these little treasures – china and chargers and music boxes – all contain little lessons. Titus 1:15 says, “To the pure, all things are pure”. I think this means that God can speak to me in everything if I focus my attention on Him, let my desire for His truth be the filter through which He speaks to me. So, today the lesson is about a broken, out of tune, faded out, old music box.

She doesn’t sparkle. She doesn’t sing sweetly. She doesn’t work quite right. Her dress is cracked. But she’s still treasured – not because of how well she performs, but because of who she belonged to, and the memories she holds. I don’t love her because she’s perfect—I love her because she belonged to my grandmother and now she belongs to me.

And isn’t that just like the Lord?

We may be cracked. Our song may be off-key. We may feel forgotten, or passed over, or patched together one too many times. Even in our imperfections, God chooses us. Loves us. Delights in us. Simply because we are His.

Psalm 22:30 says, “Future generations will hear about the wonders of the Lord” (NLT). I want to be the kind of woman who tells. Who shares. Who puts broken music boxes on the shelf and pink chargers on the table and celebrates every season of life, because every one is a gift. I want to be a bridge between generations—passing down beauty and brokenness, faith and joy, love and legacy.

And in this way, even my little broken Irish girl becomes a treasure ❤

Sweat and Sunscreen and Generational Blessings

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“I will establish my covenant between me and you and your offspring after you throughout their generations for an everlasting covenant, to be God to you and to your offspring after you.”  Genesis 17:7

My two-year-old grandson and I love SeaWorld. At this stage in his life, we see it more as a zoo than a theme park. We love to stroll the paths, admire the aquariums, and see the animals above and below the water. He especially loves the shows. He loves the orcas, sharks, Elmo’s train…. He has a lot of favorites, and that makes life with him so much fun!

Last week, I invited his dad/my son to join us for the day. As we sat together at the orca show (his favorite!), my grandson crawled up into my lap. I kissed the top of his head, breathing in that familiar mix of sweat and sunscreen, the universal cologne of little boyhood. Suddenly, I was transported back in time to when his dad was two years old and snuggled in that same spot. That weight, that warmth, that love, that memory brought tears of joy to my eyes.

Watching my grown son hold his son’s hand as they walked through the shark tank (oh wait – the sharks are his favorite!), or laughing as he crammed his 6’4” frame into a tiny seat on Elmo’s train (that’s also his favorite, LOL!), I was struck with gratitude—not just for the sweetness of the moment, but for the enduring goodness of God from one generation to the next.

The promises of God are not limited by age or time. Genesis 17:7 speaks of God’s everlasting covenant—not just with Abraham, but with his descendants. This is the beauty of generational faith: God doesn’t just call me to follow Him—He invites my children, my grandchildren, and their children after them.

We’re not saved by bloodline, of course, but there is an incredible grace in seeing the thread of God’s faithfulness continue through the generations. Psalm 145:4 declares, “One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts.” There is no greater joy than watching your children carry on the faith you’ve labored to live out.  One day, God willing, I’ll see my grandson begin to walk that same path.

“We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord, and His might, and the wonders that He has done.” Psalm 78:4

If we embrace this season with joy, we’ll discover its own special anointing. We become the storytellers of the family faith. That’s my call, and yours: to speak life into the next generation—not just through Bible stories, but through our own testimonies. Tell them about the time God provided when I had nothing. Share how He healed, how He carried me through heartbreak, how He surprised me with peace when it made no sense. These aren’t just stories—they’re spiritual inheritance.

Holding my grandson, watching him gaze at his dad with adoration, I felt it deeply: this is what blessing looks like. Not just health or happiness or financial security, but the continuity of love and faith. My grandson is just the cherry on top!

“Tell your children of it, and let your children tell their children, and their children to another generation.” Joel 1:3

There’s something profoundly holy about watching your grown child parent their own child with gentleness, laughter, and strength. It’s a glimpse of God’s faithfulness—not only in your own life, but in theirs. (Since this post is so personal anyway, I’ll just continue: I’m in awe watching my son and daughter-in-love parent. They are excellent, and their children are surely blessed).

Faith passed down becomes more than memory. It transforms from something we talk about to something we live out, shoulder to shoulder, hand in hand. From the stroller at SeaWorld to the altar at church, from Elmo’s train to the truths of Scripture, every moment is an opportunity to pass along something eternal.

“To him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:21

I’ve been in a season of transition, and know from experience that transitions can be hard. Watching the years unfold brings tears and joy in equal measure. However, these transitions in my family have been a joy and ease: my son becoming a husband, then a dad, me becoming a GiGi. What a joy to hold a child in your arms and know that the God who held you all these years is now holding them, too.

To tell of God’s mighty works, and to declare that His mercy truly endures from generation to generation – that’s my treasure today and I am taking it all in! ❤

“Where Are You?” (Part 2): The Blessing Is in the Place of Obedience

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Last week, I asked a question: “Where are you?” (Genesis 3:9). It wasn’t a question of physical location, but of spiritual alignment. Are you where God has called you to be—not just geographically, but emotionally, spiritually, mentally?

This week, let’s go one step deeper. Let’s not just ask, “Where are you?”—let’s reflect on why it matters. Here’s the truth:

God’s blessing doesn’t come to where you are. God’s blessing comes to where you are supposed to be.

That might sound a little unsettling at first. After all, wouldn’t a loving God meet us right where we are?

The answer is a resounding YES! He absolutely does meet us with mercy, grace, and compassion right where we are. However, when it comes to purpose, provision, and blessing, the Word of God shows us a consistent pattern: His best is released in the place of obedience.

Psalm 37:23 tells us, “The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way.” (Sorry, I reverted to the KJV for a sec there, it’s a familiarity thing for me!)  Here’s the NLT: “The LORD directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives.”

Let that sink in: your steps are ordered. That means every twist, every turn, every detour that didn’t make sense—God has a plan for it. But there’s a catch. If steps are ordered, then there’s a direction we’re expected to walk in. And if we veer off that path—due to fear, disobedience, or comfort—we may find ourselves out of sync with the very blessings we’ve been praying for.

How about Jonah? God gave him clear instructions: Go to Nineveh. Instead, Jonah ran the other way, boarding a ship to Tarshish. Jonah didn’t lose his calling—he lost his footing. With his disobedience came consequences: a violent storm, a frightened crew, and a three-day stay in the belly of a great fish.

Why? Because God’s provision was never in Tarshish. The miracle Jonah was called to be part of was waiting in Nineveh.

Too often, we make decisions based on what feels good or what looks safe. But comfort is not confirmation. Just because it’s easy doesn’t mean it’s God. Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s not God.

Being in the right place doesn’t always feel pleasant—but it’s always worth it. The question is: Are you where God told you to go, or are you where it’s comfortable? God’s purpose isn’t passive. It’s positioned. It calls us to move, to shift, to step out—even when it’s scary or inconvenient. Sometimes, the place we want to be is not the place we’re supposed to be. Do not make the mistake of allowing your comfort to compete with your calling.

In 1 Kings 17, we meet the prophet Elijah in a time of severe drought. God speaks to him and says:

“Leave here, turn eastward and hide in the Kerith Ravine, east of the Jordan. You will drink from the brook, and I have directed the ravens to supply you with food there.” (1 Kings 17:3–4, NIV)

God doesn’t just say, “I’ll take care of you.” He gives Elijah a very specific instruction—go there. Why? Because that’s where the blessing is. That’s where the provision has been appointed. If Elijah had stayed put or gone his own way, he would have missed the miracle. The provision was real. The blessing was ready. But it was tied to the location that Elijah would arrive at through obedience.

Sometimes, we wait for God to bless us in the wrong place. We want breakthrough without obedience. We want favor without surrender. God’s blessing isn’t random—it’s relational. It’s unlocked when we walk with Him in trust and obedience.

Hebrews 11 is full of people who were blessed because they moved:

  • Abraham left everything familiar to go to a land God would show him—and became the father of many nations.
  • Moses walked away from Pharaoh’s palace and into a wilderness of uncertainty—only to become the leader of a great exodus.
  • Ruth left Moab and followed Naomi into Bethlehem—where she stepped into divine legacy and became part of the lineage of Jesus.

They all had one thing in common: they didn’t stay where it was easy. They followed God into the unknown. And because of that, they stepped into destiny.

Let’s circle back to the original question: where are you?

Not just in the physical sense—but in your obedience, in your faith, in your surrender. Are you waiting for God to bless a place He never sent you? Are you asking Him to show up in a situation you weren’t called to?

If so, maybe it’s time to shift. Not out of shame or guilt—but out of love and invitation. God’s not trying to punish you, He’s trying to position you.

The goal is not to be just anywhere. The goal is to be in the center of His will. Perfectly positioned, surrendered, expectant. God is faithful to provide for His purpose. His purpose is always found in the place He calls you to be.

Here are a few reflection questions to take to prayer:

  1. Am I currently in a place of obedience, or just a place of comfort?
  2. What instructions has God given me that I’ve delayed or ignored?
  3. Where have I been asking God to bless my plan instead of following His?
  4. What step do I need to take today to move toward obedience?

You don’t have to have all the answers. Let’s just purpose to take the next right step.

Remember: the blessing of the Lord is not where you are, it’s where you’re supposed to be – and finding yourself in that sweet spot, ready to receive it? That’s a treasure!

Where Are You?

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 “Where are you?” Genesis 3:8

Genesis 3 has a very familiar history – even if you quit your “bible in a year” reading plan, you most likely made it to Genesis 3 at least! Adam and Eve disobey the Lord. When God comes to the garden, Adam and Eve hear Him and attempt to hide from Him in their shame. 

That question in Genesis 3:8 always catches me. God is calling to Adam, but it’s not because He doesn’t know where Adam is hiding. This isn’t a case of “I lost track of you.” It’s more like: “Adam, do you realize where you’ve ended up? Do you know how far you’ve drifted?”

It’s a sobering moment. And to be honest, it hits a little close to home sometimes.

Have you ever had one of those “where am I?” moments in life—not physically, but spiritually? Perhaps you looked up one day and thought, “This isn’t where I thought I’d be. This isn’t who I intended to become”. Sometimes it’s subtle. You’re still serving, still showing up, still saying all the right words. But internally? You feel a little off-track. A little lost. A little… somewhere else.

Let’s settle this up front: God knows exactly where you are. Hebrews 4:13 reminds us, “There is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.”

There’s not a thought you’ve had, a step you’ve taken, or a secret pain you carry that He hasn’t seen. He is not confused about your location or your situation. But sometimes—like with Adam—He asks you to think about it. He invites you to pause and evaluate: Where am I, really? Am I walking with Him… or hiding behind something?

We’re not talking about self-condemnation or self-indulgence.. This isn’t about spiraling into guilt or chasing perfection. It’s about simply and humbly coming before God with an open heart and asking: Father, am I still on the path You set for me?

  • Am I obeying what You asked me to do?
  • Am I still growing, or just going through the motions?
  • Am I clinging to comfort when You’ve called me to courage?

Sometimes we can get so caught up in doing things for God that we forget to walk with Him. Ministry, leadership, even devotion can become routine if we’re not intentional. And before long, we can be physically present but spiritually off course.

Think about a GPS for a second. If you take a wrong turn, it doesn’t shame you. It doesn’t yell, it doesn’t call us names. It simply says: “Recalculating.”

In love, the Holy Spirit does the same. He gently prompts us back to center. The real question isn’t “Does God know where I am?” The real question is “Do I know where I am in relation to Him?”

  • Are you following closely behind Him, even when the path is narrow?
  • Are you hanging back, afraid of what’s ahead?
  • Are you running ahead, trying to lead the way?
  • Are you sitting down on the side of the road, discouraged and unsure if you even want to keep going?

If you feel off-track today, here’s the good news: God is still calling. The same voice that called out to Adam is calling to you. He’s not calling in anger. He’s not waiting to lecture you. He’s offering you an invitation to walk with Him again, to realign with His heart and His purposes specifically for you. Even when we are off-track, that knowledge of His character should give us peace.

That question—“Where are you?”—isn’t about punishment. It’s about restoration. It’s an opportunity. A chance to recognize where you are, so He can lead you where you’re meant to go. He knows the path, even when you can’t see the next step – and it’s a treasure when we let the Lord take the lead!

“I’m Going to Your House Today!”

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When we were children, friendship and community seemed easier, didn’t it? We were in school together, when you had a deskmate or someone who shared your seat on the bus, 8 year olds could be pretty simple. (Well, at least when I was an 8 year old, life was simpler – not sure if it’s simple for the 8 year old in 2025!). However, as adults, we have to make more of an effort.  Godly friendship doesn’t happen by accident!

One of my friends and I laugh often about how we became close.  She had moved to a new city, and I thought, “she needs me” – so I called her up and said, “Hey!  I’m coming to sleep over at your house!” I called another friend and said, “Hey – we are going to a sleepover!  Get packed!” LOL!  Today, we are still BFFs, and we still laugh about that story!  

You might be thinking, “I could never!”. I know – it sounds embarrassing, but this is not without precedent. You know who did this way before I did?  

“When Jesus reached the spot, he looked up and said to him, ‘Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today.”  So Zacchaeus came down at once and welcomed Jesus gladly.” Luke 19:5-6 NIV

(Anyone else singing the children’s song in your head right now?  “Zacchaeus, you come down!  For I’m going to your house today! I’m going to your house today!”)

To be honest, at the moment of that phone call when I invited myself over, we weren’t really that kind of friends yet. The Holy Spirit, in His kindness, allowed me to see a need – and it turns out that it was a need I had in my life too.  The result is one of my most treasured friendships!

Okay, so you don’t have to cold-call people to get friends, LOL!  However, the faith journey should not be a solo one.  God’s idea is for us to be in families and in community – He was the one who said, “it is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). The enemy of your soul wants you isolated – don’t fall into that trap.  

A few tips for you:

  • Be Vulnerable: Let others see the real you. Friendship grows in the soil of authenticity.
  • Make Time: Busy-ness is one of the greatest threats to community. Prioritize people over productivity.
  • Pray Together: Shared prayer deepens bonds like nothing else. Make prayer a regular part of your friendships.
  • Speak Life: Be generous with encouragement, grace, and affirmation.
  • Pursue Reconciliation: Conflict is inevitable, but godly friendship chooses forgiveness over offense.

Friendship is not just emotional support—it’s a spiritual discipline. When we surround ourselves with godly companions, we position ourselves to hear God more clearly, walk more faithfully, and live more fully.

Don’t wait for friendship to find you. Sow seeds of intentionality, vulnerability, and prayer. Water them with consistency and grace. Trust that God, in His perfect timing, will surround you with the kind of friends who make you more like Him. I have found that this effort is worth it, and I have been blessed with godly friendships in my life. Today, I want to encourage you to make that investment! You will find it to be a treasure ❤ 

p.s. I’m continuing this discussion on the podcast this week! New episode will drop on Thursday. Subscribe on Youtube, Spotify or Apple Podcasts this week so we can connect again! Here’s the link tree so we can connect!

Are You Receiving a Sabbath?

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God includes Sabbath-keeping among the Ten Commandments, placing it alongside commands against idolatry, murder and adultery. Whoa! Considered in this context, the seriousness and sacredness of Sabbath is surely underscored here. It’s not just a spiritual tip for well-being, it’s an act of obedience and reverence.

I have to be honest: I didn’t always observe a weekly Sabbath consistently. Even now, there are some weeks when I allow this time to be crowded out (I say “I allow” because I’m taking responsibility – this is a result of my own choices). BUT, it’s important and ought to be a priority in my schedule (and yours!).

“Observe the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Work six days and do everything you need to do. But the seventh day is a Sabbath to God, your God. Don’t do any work—not you, nor your son, nor your daughter, nor your servant, nor your maid, nor your animals, not even the foreign guest visiting in your town. For in six days God made Heaven, Earth, and sea, and everything in them; He rested on the seventh day. Therefore God blessed the Sabbath day; He set it apart as a holy day.” Exodus 20:8-11

I had some wrong ideas about Sabbath – I thought it meant only Sunday. This wasn’t possible for me: as a pastor’s wife (until a few weeks ago, my husband recently resigned his pastorate), Sundays were not a day of rest – Sundays were a workday for us.  I also wrongly thought that Sabbath meant 24 straight hours of NOTHING, no activity at all.  This was hard for me too – I’m a “mover and shaker” generally, and enjoy being happily busy.

Ken Shigamatsu (one of my favorites authors/pastors) defines Sabbath as “a chance to step off the hampster wheel and listen to the voice that tells us we are beloved by God. The sabbath heals us from our compulsion to measure ourselves by what we accomplish, who we know, and the influence we have”. Take a deep breath, take a pause and quietly consider that!  Now this is a concept I can get behind! The Sabbath is a divine invitation to rest, reflect, and realign with God—and with ourselves.  Sabbath is 24 hours set aside for rest, for life-giving activity. 

Some of you are thinking what I thought at first: “there’s no way I can take 24 hours off!” Again, I have to be honest: when I first began to pray about Sabbath, when I first recognized my need for it, when the Lord started dealing with me about getting into the rhythm He intended for His children, there was no way. I had packed my calendar out.  I didn’t run my schedule – my schedule ran me. “Lord, how am I going to stop for 24 straight hours? Are You kidding? I’ve made commitments here.” 

I don’t know about you – but when the Lord starts to deal with me about disobedience, He isn’t kidding. (Oh – sorry, did I say disobedience out loud?  That sounded harsh…. But this is one of the Big Ten, remember?)

At first, it wasn’t realistic.  I had made commitments, I had over-scheduled, I had made promises that I should not have made, I kept once-genuine needs on the calendar past their effectiveness….  It was understandable that I needed time to rearrange some things on the calendar as well as needing to eliminate some things altogether. 

I realized that I needed to start budgeting my TIME the same way I budgeted my MONEY. The reason I can’t buy another car is that I made a commitment to the one I have.  If I want another car, I need to sell this one, right? The reason I can’t buy a new outfit today is that I bought a new outfit last week – I spent that money already. My time is just as valuable and needs to be carefully budgeted as well.

I looked at my calendar:

  • Okay, I committed to leading this small group.  I can’t quit immediately, but I can finish this semester and not volunteer for this again. (Is leading 4 small groups necessary?)
  • My weekly bible study is a priority for me – those friendships are life-giving, and the opportunity to be in community is valuable, I’ll keep that.
  • Okay, I committed to coaching this cheer squad.  Football season ends in 2 months, and I’ll end at that time too.
  • Family dinner every Sunday can’t be negotiated!  We all love it!
  • Work is a must.  My hours are 7:00-5:00 Tuesday-Friday.  I need to stop working past my hours on a regular basis, and I need to re-order my workday so I am not bringing work home. I wrote in Mondays off – why aren’t I taking that day?

Slowly, I got my calendar in balance and worked up to 24 hours of rest.  Most weeks, my Sabbath is Friday dinner-Saturday dinner. That time is for rest, for life-giving activity.  I’ll describe my Friday/Saturday to you, as an example: 

  • No obligations – if it is an obligation, I’ll do it another day
  • Friday dinner is usually with my husband – we like to order in Chinese or grill salmon and veggies
  • Saturday mornings are SLOW – I don’t make any plans that start before 10:00am.
  • Saturday 10am – Saturday dinner time is for me: let’s take out the kayak or take a bike ride.  Let’s go to lunch or coffee with a friend. Let’s turn off the phone and read. Let’s cuddle the pup or the grandbaby.
  • For these 24 hours, I’m going to purposefully invite Jesus into my daily, and let Him minister peace to me. Let Him remind me that my value is in being His child, not in what I accomplish.
  • If something comes up (and it does), I plan in advance and organize my week in a way that I get a different 24 hours.  I feel it keenly when I don’t take this rest.

A few last things about Sabbath:

Sabbath is an act of radical trust: Keeping the Sabbath means ceasing work, even when there is more to do. Sabbath rest is a weekly declaration that God is our provider, not our “hustle”. Sabbath reminds us that our identity is rooted in being and not in doing.

Sabbath is a return to God’s intended rhythm for us. The Sabbath is rooted in creation itself. “On the seventh day, God rested” (Genesis 2:2-3). If the Creator of the universe paused to rest – not from weariness, but from delight – then so should we. Observing the Sabbath with joy reconnects us with the divine rhythm of work and rest; helping us recover from burnout, anxiety, and striving.

Sabbath is a preview of eternal rest. The Sabbath points us forward to the eternal rest promised in Christ (Hebrews 4:9-11). Jesus is our Sabbath rest – He frees us from striving for righteousness through works and invites us into grace-driven rest.

Maybe you need a little space to budget differently? Take that space and use it to re-order, work up to the 24 hours. Give yourself grace, it may not happen overnight. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you. This time is a gift from the Lord – and receiving Sabbath from His hand with delight every seven days will become a treasure to you! ❤

A Second Time, Really?

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This is one of my favorites – it’s probably one of yours too: 

“Thus says the Lord who made it, the Lord who formed it to establish it (the Lord is His name): ‘Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know.’ ” Jeremiah 33:3 NKJV

(Before you get nervous, I’m not going to ruin your favorite verse like I did with Psalm 46:10 if you were with me back then: https://jenniferwspivey.org/2020/12/30/a-new-look-at-an-old-favorite/ You might even like Jeremiah 33:3 more after we visit!)

We like to say that God is a “God of second chances”, don’t we?  Have you ever heard that phrase?  I think it mostly references the second chances He gives to His children. However, I wonder if we are this gracious to God, if we are quick to give Him a “second chance” if we don’t like the way it went with Him the first time around.

Did you ever hear a word from the Lord that you weren’t too sure about?  A few examples from my life: 

  • Many many years ago, I sensed the Holy Spirit tell me, “A battle is coming”. I wasn’t excited to hear that, to be honest. Looking back now, I am comforted by the fact that He knew and offered a heads-up to assure me that I would not be alone.
  • When the Lord spoke to us about taking a position 13 hours away from our hometown…. Oh my. I bawled my eyes out on that entire drive (bawling is worse than regular crying, y’all!).
  • Recently, the Lord spoke to my husband and I about making a move from the pastorate to a new adventure.  I wasn’t too excited about that at first (though it’s turning out for everyone’s best!).  I am comforted that we are walking in obedience.

Perhaps it was a battle you had to face, a relationship you had to end, a hardship you had to endure…. Even a warning from the Lord is a gift, He always speaks for our benefit and nothing He says is without value.

When we look at Jeremiah 33:3 (or any scripture really), it’s important to get the context.  Sometimes I skip the history lesson for time’s sake (or word count, LOL!), but let’s go into it a little bit this time. I dearly love the history lesson!

Backing up to Jeremiah 32, the Lord comes to Jeremiah with a word that is not as encouraging as 33:3 – 

“Then the word of the Lord came to Jeremiah: ‘I am the Lord, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me? Therefore this is what the Lord says: I am about to give this city into the hands of the Babylonians and to Nebuchadnezzar king of Babylon, who will capture it. The Babylonians who are attacking this city will come in and set it on fire; they will burn it down, along with the houses where the people aroused my anger by burning incense on the roofs to Baal and by pouring out drink offerings to other gods. The people of Israel and Judah have done nothing but evil in my sight from their youth; indeed, the people of Israel have done nothing but arouse my anger with what their hands have made, declares the Lord’ ” 32:26-30

Yikes. Now let’s look at 33:1, we’re working our way back to 33:3, hang in there: 

“While Jeremiah was still confined in the courtyard of the guard, the word of the Lord came to him a second time”

A second time, really?  Jeremiah is still in his confinement, he’s still in the place of captivity, still under the attack that the Lord told him would be coming…. To be honest, if I were Jeremiah, I might have said, “Thanks but no thanks – not real crazy about the first thing You said, Lord, so I’m not sure I’m interested in You coming a second time.”

Thankfully Jeremiah had a soft heart and ears to hear what the Lord had to say, how much he would have missed:

“This is what the Lord says, He who made the earth, the Lord who formed it and established it—the Lord is his name: ‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’ ” 33:3

But wait – there’s MORE!  Jeremiah does call out to the Lord, and the word is an encouragement in his distress: 

“For thus says the Lord, the God of Israel, concerning the houses of this city and the houses of the kings of Judah…. I will bring health and healing to it; I will heal My people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security.  I will bring Judah and Israel back from captivity and will rebuild them as they were before.  I will cleanse them from all the sin they have committed against Me and will forgive all their sins of rebellion against Me.  Then this city will bring Me renown, joy, praise and honor before all nations on earth that hear of all the good things I do for it; and they will be in awe and will tremble at the abundant prosperity and peace I provide for it.’ ” 33:4, 6-9

WOW! I’m so glad Jeremiah was receptive when the Lord came a “second time”, and what an example this provides for me. Where else would Jeremiah had gone at that moment?  In his crisis, had he left the Lord, where else would have found healing and restoration and help? It reminds me of Peter in John 6:68, “Peter answered Him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life.” Even in crisis, especially in crisis, there is no other source of help.  

Every time the Lord speaks, it’s a gift – let Him come to you a second time (and a third time, and a fourth time, and….) and it will be a treasure! ❤