Because I Didn’t Name My Son George

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I didn’t name my son George, but I really wanted to!  It’s my dad’s name, and I love him.  Michael vetoed that one when we were choosing names for our sons.  (I had veto power myself, and used it to nix Rayphord.  Yes, with a ph.  If either of the twins are reading this, y’all are welcome!). I’ll tell you a story about George today.

I had been running and not paying attention to the oversized hammock strung between the two tress in front of me.  How could I miss that?  Six years old, I had been more concerned with what was behind me than what was in front of me: it was a great game of tag, and my little brother was gaining on me fast!  I ran straight into the hammock and was flipped over onto my back. When I hit the ground, the wind had been knocked out of me.  Little and scared, I looked frantically for my dad.  I didn’t have to wait long.  From my vantage point on the ground, I saw it happen: my dad jumped of the back porch – jumped off the back porch! – landed on his feet and came to my rescue without hesitation.  You should have seen our back porch.  It was high, I’m telling you.  Scary high.  Daddy lifted me up, reassured me, and stayed with me until I felt safe again.  Already convinced that my dad was Superman, I now had proof: I had seen him fly.

This would not be the only time that my dad came to my rescue.  Over and over again in my life, he made it clear through his words and action that nothing was more important to him than the success and safety of our family.  He spent time with us, provided for us, protected us, loved us.  it was obvious that the main goal in my dad’s life was to care for us and strengthen us.  This knowledge made it pretty easy to submit to him.  If you were convinced that your authority was dedicated to your happiness and success it would be infinitely easier to obey, wouldn’t it?  Sure!  That’s the way it was with my dad.

Of course, I went through difficult years like most of us did.  I made my own mistakes and learned my own lessons.  Though he always put in his “two cents worth”, Dad would let me struggle at times.  In his wisdom, he knew that I would learn even in the struggle.  Certainly, there was always a reminder that my difficulty would have been avoided or made easier had I listened, but even when I fell, he was always there to help me up.

Looking back, I honestly can’t remember a time when my dad turned out to be wrong.  I didn’t always do what he told me, but things always seemed to work to my benefit when I did. From my childhood forward, there were times when I understood his direction and times when I did not understand.  In either case, there was one aspect of his instruction that I always understood completely: my dad loved me and his motives centered around me becoming successful and happy.   In a perfect world, our relationships with our earthly fathers would prepare us for and be a type of the relationship we would develop with our heavenly Father.  In this way, as in every other possible way, my dad id his job well. As I grew, I was able to apply my experience with my earthly father to what would become my experience with my Heavenly Father.  Because it was my experience that fathers were loving and caring and protective, I was able to accept that love more easily from my Father God.

Sadly, everyone does not have the relationship with their earthly fathers as I did with mine.  If your experience was different, you have to make a concerted effort to seek healing and to  exchange whatever feelings you have toward your earthly father for what you know to be true about your Heavenly Father: God loves you! Obedience is key,  and our best path to obedience is being convinced that God loves us and means our best.  As His motives toward us are pure, our motives in obedience must be pure as well. Sometimes it is important for us to know why we do the things we do.  When we were children, we did things because we were told.  Sometimes we understood why, sometimes we did not.  However, as it is acceptable to use wisdom in helping us make decisions, it is not acceptable to trust your own wisdom over the wisdom of the Lord.  When in doubt of your situation, you must never doubt God’s heart toward you.  Practice being obedient.  Make it your aim to please God, whether or not you understand His ways completely.

As we mature and make decisions for ourselves, the reason behind our obedience can help in the process.  God searches out our motives as well as our obedience.  In Jeremiah 17:10, God speaks to us and tells us, “I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind, even to give to each man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his doings.” The motives behind your obedience (or disobedience) will produce fruit, and it is according to that fruit you will be judged.  Strive to keep your heart open and pure before the Lord.

God’s Word communicates to us over and over again that God is love.  Through every word and deed in our lives, we can easily recognize His heart and His intentions toward us.  As we come to rest in His love, we will be able to minister His love to others.  God cares for us so that we may pass on the fullness of God’s care and comfort to others who need to experience His comfort.  In understanding our role in the providential plan of God, we must be aware that all He does for us is not ONLY for us.  As we are His agents here on earth, it is up to us to do His work and see His kingdom increased.

Paul communicates this idea perfectly in 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 when he writes, “our Lord Jesus Christ… comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” As we understand His motives toward us and as we find ourselves comforted by God, we are to pass that comfort on to others.  As you become more and more obedient to Christ, you’ll find it easier and easier to serve others.  My dad modeled this before me very well.  When our obedience comes full circle in this way, we will be simultaneously fulfilling God’s plans for our lives AND furthering His kingdom here on earth.  Win-win!  In this way, our motives are every bit as important as our obedience.

From my six year old perspective, that porch was high.  Scary high, I’m telling you.  Years later, all grown and with children of my own, I stood in the backyard with my dad, my hero. Remembering that day and so many other days where he had put me first, I saw that porch from an adult perspective.  Funny – it was only about four feet off the ground.  I looked at my dad and realized: it didn’t change my perspective on him one single bit.  Still convinced that my dad is Superman, I had proof: I had seen him fly.

Having an example to follow here on earth is a bonus – realizing that we have the greatest example in Jesus Christ is a treasure.  Praying that you’ll find His example worthy to follow  and experience the blessings of obedience in your life ❤

Jennifer 🙂

paths that lead home

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Today I was remembering when my daughter Linds was in kindergarten – as my children (not children anymore) grow and time starts to go by faster and faster, I seem to do a lot more remembering!

One of the skills she had to demonstrate when she was in kindergarten was knowing her home address.  Lindsay had always been a free spirit, independent in a good way, but she wasn’t ever difficult, really.  Not until we asked her to memorize her home address.  We practiced all the time – at the breakfast table, in the car, at dinner, on walks.  We showed her the mailbox and made flashcards… She did well in school, but not when it came to her home address!  Her teacher would call me: “Jennifer, we’re going to be assessing this week – practice Lindsay’s home address please!  Let’s mark this completed on her report card!”  I tried, but Lindsay wasn’t having it.

All year long, she struggled.  All year long, I tried to figure out why we couldn’t get this ONE thing. Every report card came with an “incomplete” in that one box.  As kindergarten drew to a close, her teacher made the final call – this would be the last time, this grade would be on the final report card.  We got ready for school, and got in the car.  “Lindsay, honey, say it after me: 4-2-6-5….” I said it real loud and real slow, as if the problem was her English skills, not her address.  Finally, Lindsay said something that clicked the light bulb in my brain ON: “Mommy, if I need to come home, won’t you just please help me?”  I didn’t have to think long to give her an answer: “Yes, baby, if you need to come home, Mommy will help you.” We stopped practicing her home address and I called her teacher – go ahead and mark that spot “incomplete”, and yes, I’m aware that this is the final report card.  If Lindsay needs to come home, I’m just going to help her.

I understood then why Lindsay hadn’t yet learned her home address: it just wasn’t important to her.  She might not have known those numbers, but she knew someone who did: if she needed to come home, her mommy would help her.  I’m happy to report that she has since learned her home address (pretty shortly after this, I’m sure!), and that this “incomplete” on a kindergarten report card hasn’t hindered her progress in life (these things become less and less important as time goes by!).  I’m mostly happy to report that I was the one who learned a lesson on that day, and it has stuck with me all these years: it’s important to know things for yourself, but it is just as important (if not more important) to know the source of the needed information.

Jesus once told His disciples, “I have much more to say to you, but it is more than you can now bear” (John 16:15).  He knew that they couldn’t handle all He had to say, and He was asking them to trust Him to carry the knowledge for them until they were ready.  It is the same with us today.  We cannot understand all that is happening in our world, all that is happening spiritually – but we can strive to know Jesus intimately and stay as close to His heart as we can.  If we need to get Home, won’t He just help us?  Sure He will!

Lindsay wasn’t being difficult at all – she was trusting me.  As soon as she grew a little more, she was able to handle a little more, and she did come to understand the importance of knowing her address herself – but first, she understood the importance of knowing who had the necessary knowledge and she stayed close.  We can take a lesson: learn as much as we can, try as hard as we can, but when we come to the end of ourselves (and still come up short, as we will come up short), stay close to the One Who has the information we need.  He will help us.

Want to take it one step further?  I have a favorite verse in Isaiah that says,  “the Lord shall guide you continually and satisfy you in drought and in dry places and make strong your bones. And you shall be like a watered garden and like a spring of water whose waters fail not” (58:11) and you shall be “the repairer of the breach, the restorer of the paths to dwell in” (58:13).  Another translation says the “restorer of the paths that lead home”.  How lovely.  Where there was once lack, God gives increase.  Where there was once weakness, God gives strength.  Where there was once homelessness, God made His children the very ones who restore the paths that lead home again.  That’s us – the restorers of the paths that lead home!

Wherever you are on your journey, there is cause for encouragement.  Maybe you are where my little-kindergarten-Lindsay once was – not sure you could recall your address yourself, but you are trusting the One who can and you are staying close to Him.  Beautiful!  Maybe you have grown past this point: you have the information yourself, and coupled with a close walk with Jesus, you are able to help others who are on the way home as well – restoring the path before them with your example and faithfulness.  Wonderful!

If you need to find your way home, you have a Savior who will help you!  Trust Him and stay close ❤ The ability to do so is a treasure!  Praying you find your way home in confidence and peace – God is so generous and kind to us!

Jennifer 🙂

a good reputation :)

“Choose a good reputation over great riches;
 being held in high esteem is better than silver or gold.”

Proverbs 22:1 NLT

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Anyone who knows my sweet husband also knows this: he is a favorite everywhere he goes!  I’ve grown accustomed to the comment, “Oh – you are Michael’s wife?” anytime someone hears my last name.  Everyone knows Michael, and everyone loves Michael! It’s a happy and welcomed situation!

Today, my name was recognized for two different reasons: my sons. I was checking out at the drugstore, and they asked for my rewards card.  I didn’t have it, but I entered my husband’s phone number, and the cashier (precious older gentlewoman) said, “There you are, Mrs. Spivey.  Oh wait – are the Spivey twins your boys?”  When I confirmed that they were, she went on to tell me how sweet they were, how much she enjoyed seeing them when they came in, and how proud I must be.  I had to admit: I am pretty proud of these two!  I walked out smiling, thinking how nice it is that my sons have taken after their father – well-liked and welcomed everywhere they go.  It makes such a pleasant and happy life.

The Bible tells us to “choose a good reputation over great riches” because “being held in high esteem is better than silver or gold (Proverbs 22:1).  How true and how wise. It is not a difficult choice, but it must be made again and again, with purpose day after day.  You choose a good reputation every time you choose to treat others well (“do unto others as you would have them do unto you” Luke 6:31).  You choose a good reputation every time you choose your words with kindness and love (“a word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in setting of silver” Proverbs 25:11).  You choose a good reputation every time you do your work in excellence (“work heartliy as unto the Lord and not unto men” Colossians 3:23). I am thankful that my boys are choosing a good reputation, and I pray that they always will.  Consistency is key.  

Suddenly  a silly little movie quote has popped into my thoughts…. One of my favorite movies is “Harvey” with Jimmy Stewart (oh, you’ve never seen it?  It might not be in the RedBox, but it’s worth a little digging around to find it!).  At one point, the main character is trying to explain himself and he says, “My mother used to tell me, ‘In this world, you must be oh-so-smart or oh-so-pleasant.  For years, I was smart. I recommend pleasant.”  What a sweet choice he made!  I recommend pleasant as well!

Today my treasure is seeing my babies grow into men whom I admire very much.  It’s an example that we all can follow – me too! I hope that you find a treasure today!  God is generous and kind to us, and I am praying that you find Him so in your life ❤

Jennifer